5 things I’ve learnt by moving away alone

5 things learnt moving away alone

In September 2016 I moved 250 miles away from home and family to be a live-in nanny. At the time I was taking a huge risk, moving to an area where I didn’t know anyone. I didn’t know how well I would cope with it or even if I would cope with it. Two years later, it was time for me to leave that family and I’ve recently moved again. The whole adventure was a really valuable experience and I learnt so much about myself. Here are the five main lessons I learnt by moving away alone.

Moving away actually brought me closer to my friends and family

They say absence makes the heart grow fonder, well it really does! When I traveled home for the weekend, I made sure to spend time with my friends and family, it made me appreciate them so much more.

My anxiety doesn’t have to hold me back

This is something I haven’t really discussed on this blog yet but from being a teenager I have suffered with anxiety and panic attacks. Between 2013-2016 I used to blog about my anxiety on another platform and it helped me immensely. I did worry that I wouldn’t be able to cope with being away from home and family because of my anxiety. The main worry was that I would be alone in my room having panic attack after panic attack. I did have panic attacks while I was living/working away but I worked through them and my anxiety didn’t hold me back. Also I realised that there is a difference between anxiety/panic and everyday stress, nerves and homesickness. I felt all of these emotions and that was ok, homesickness didn’t mean I would automatically have a panic attack, something else I had been concerned about.

I’m braver than I think 

During the whole experience I was really far out of my comfort zone. I grew so much and realised that I am capable of much more than I thought I was. I joined a few meetup groups to meet people and as a result of that I did indoor surfing, wake boarding, snowboarding, hovercraft driving, quad biking and jumped 125ft off the top of a wind tunnel! Through all of that I realised I’m braver than I give myself credit for.

Meeting strangers gets easier the more I do it

The first meetup I went to, I was so nervous about introducing myself to a group of strangers that I almost turned around and went home. I’m so glad I didn’t! Meeting people for the first time, especially in groups, is scary but I found the more I did it the easier it was. I’m not an extrovert and I’ll never be a social butterfly but I was able to meet people and make friends through meet up groups.

Ultimately I’m a home bird but that doesn’t mean I can’t spread my wings!

The main thing I learnt is that although I loved the experience of being away from home, I feel miserable if I’m away for too long. When I was driving home for a weekend it was a 500 mile round trip! When I left that job and returned home, I knew that I wanted to work away again but I needed to be closer, for my own happiness. Just last week I moved away again to another job. The big difference is I’m now only a 2 hour drive away instead of 5! Its early days but I already feel much happier as a result.

Have you moved away alone? What did you take from the experience? Let me know in the comments below =)

Take care,

Hayley x


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27 Replies to “5 things I’ve learnt by moving away alone”

  1. What a lovely positive post. Well done for conquering so much, I bet you feel so good for doing so. I’m also sure your family and friends are proud of you too.

  2. You should be so proud of yourself! So many fab achievements there.
    And so nice to hear that so much positivity has come from your experience away.

    Thanks ever so much for sharing with #MMBC. I hope you will join us next week too! x

  3. Great blog post! You’ve achieved so much, and you’ve been so brave! I haven’t moved away from home that far, just an hour’s train journey away but I feel like it’s made me feel closer to my family. Before I’d just come home and do my own thing but now when I visit them or they visit me we talk so much more and actually do things, it’s nice 🙂

    Chloe xx

  4. I actually really appreciate this post, you’ve done so much and you should be so proud of yourself and your abilities. We all have to move out one day or another, weather that means down the road or to a completely different city it’s still hard. Thank you for writing this.


  5. What a great post, Hayley. You have so much to be proud of and so much to share. We never really know how strong we are until we test ourselves or are forced into something. Way to grab the bull by the horn. <3 #dreamteam xoxo

  6. It takes a lot of strength and courage to move away from home! Kudos to you! Thanks so much for taking the time to visit and leave such a kind comment!!

  7. This was a lovely read – you should be so proud of doing this and all you have achieved over the last two years. I hope that your new chapter allows you to grow even more.

    And someone else really enjoyed this post to because they chose to add it to the BlogCrush linky for you. Hurray! Feel free to pop over and grab your “I’ve been featured” blog badge 🙂 #blogcrush

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